HTC Incredible :: Master / Main Contact Name (Can Change?)

I have two email addresses for a particular contact. One is to email their phone and the other is the real email address. I want keep them as separate Google contact entries.But the problem is that the name that the linking software has chosen to represent the account is the one for the SMS-email (e.g. "Bob Smith SMS Email").I want the name that I see in various contact lists to just be "Bob Smith".The thing is that the account with the normal email and phone number is the one set as the default, so I know the Droid is not picking up the name of the default account and using it as the "main" name.I remember once, when I was linking and unlinking accounts, that it asked me what name to use as the main name.But I can't figure out how to get back to that.